
And anyone who’s slept with two or more men is aware that some men blow bigger loads than others. Blowing loads, after all, is what men do* with their penises,** WOOD, and most people who are attracted to men are aware of this fact. I can’t imagine your new friend will be shocked. But at what point between sex being “not off-limits” and “my parts are going to be interacting with your parts as soon as our clothes are off” is the right moment to disclose my kink? But when you add the kink factor into the mix, I think something like that should be talked about before sex is “imminent.” So what responsibility do I have to divulge this information? And if I do have a responsibility to divulge this, when would be the appropriate time to bring it up? I feel like it could be sexy to be so open about a taboo, given that we’ve already discussed the desire for a physical aspect to the relationship. I guess I’d feel comfortable saying, “Hey, by the way, I produce very large loads,” if sex was imminent.

But on the other hand, at least some amount of come is expected, right? If I randomly had massive loads every single time through no effort of my own, would I be responsible for letting a partner know? Perhaps it would be the polite thing to do. I understand that it’s never cool to involve someone in your kink without their consent, but what are the rules here? On one hand, if I don’t divulge this information, I could see how my production of an unexpectedly large amount of ejaculate could be upsetting, depending on the circumstances/activity.

This is a first/Tinder date, and it’s just a coffee date, BUT she and I have talked about our expectations and there will likely be a physical aspect in whatever potential relationship may ensue. Is it my responsibility to tell my potential partner? There are a few variables here that are important to note.

Let’s say my kink is edging and I edge myself for a few days leading up to a date.
